What does that mean? Is it the answer to all questions? How do I get there? How does living work?
First you have to understand that it is an activity and not passivity at all. It is exactly the opposite of “I don’t mind”, “I don’t care” of “doing nothing”. It has nothing to do with egoism or ignorance.
Rather, it is the way of the true human being. It is the path to humanity. Yes, no less than that.
Stop chasing things, stop asking, stop adapting and making yourself dependent on other people.
He, she, them, that:
How you feel is not dependent on others. You will deal with other people in your everyday life in some way. Some are benevolent to you, others are less so. Where people meet, positive things arise, but also conflicts. However, no one has the power to influence your inner self. Only you can do that.
You cause it through your thinking, your value system and your resulting feelings. Persons, situations or events are not responsible for your feelings, but your evaluation or attitude towards them. You are responsible.
A person or a thing is neither positive nor negative per se. Your point of view makes it that way and that you determine yourself. So in fact you are not dependent on opinions or feelings of others, unless you want it to be.
But, but, but:
Talking about adapting, here’s a little test.
Observe yourself when you are alone at home. Are you relaxed, do you feel well?
Observe yourself when you are among people. Do you feel the same?
I guess not.
Your thoughts revolve around things like what others expect from me, what do they think about me or how would I like others to see me.
That is not your true self. Your true self doesn’t give a shit, because your true self doesn’t have to be anything else than in the present, in the moment.
You must be nothing, become nothing and represent nothing. Just be real!
That is the only thing that can be demanded of everyone, and also the only thing that people can give themselves. Just with such a demand the collective illness of our society becomes clear. How many real people do you know? Are you real?
Nobody has anything of value for you and neither do you have for others.
The path to yourself leads through self-observation, especially when you go among people. Are you relaxed like at home or is there this tension again? Do you feel pressure, are you afraid to look someone in the face?
Observe yourself, observe others, practice and change something.
The goal is to achieve and maintain this wonderful state of relaxation and serenity. Don’t worry, I practice all the time. An important prerequisite to reach the “fuck you” state.
If you are real, you are not adapted.
The world, the things and you:
Stop running after things and ideas. What you think you want is not necessarily the best for your true being. Learn to distinguish between desires and the things you really need.
Many of us live more in imagination than in reality. It always comes down to the same thoughts: “If I have that, if I can do that, if I am that, then…” what then, “then I will be happy”. Sorry to tell you, but you will never win that race.
The way out is waking up constantly, again and again. You can train that like a muscle. Mindfulness is a much overused word, i don’t like it. It is nothing else than awareness, being in the here and now without judging. The exercise is always to return to the now; we lose ourselves in thought too often. While doing, always thinking about the end, we all do, even that is not being in the moment. It is a lifelong exercise.
The solutions to your problems can only be found in yourself. True power can only come from yourself, true happiness comes only from yourself. Therefore, everything you give to yourself, you keep forever. Learning to give to yourself is self-responsibility. Learning to satisfy oneself is strength. Freedom arises only from within.
Most people are not what they seem. Actors, the true horror more or less well hidden behind the facade. Honest carelessness can be seen in the behaviour of people in crisis or in a challenge. There you can recognize a true “fuck giver”.
The usual avoidance tactics:
- Repressing a problem instead of understanding it.
Observe it and look at it from different angles. Accept it without evaluating it. Only your negative thoughts about it make it a problem.
- Avoiding self-responsibility by pretending that the cause for your problem is outside yourself. Bondage to fate.
No one is responsible for your life except yourself. Only when the psychological or physiological strain is high enough you will realize that the cause of all problems always lies within yourself. A fittingly quote: Let the pain be your spiritual guide.
THERE IS A LINK BETWEEN WHAT YOU THINK AND WHAT HAPPENS TO YOU.
RECOGNIZE THE POSSIBILITIES AND THE CONSEQUENCES FOR THAT.
To give a shit means freedom. The freedom of decision, the freedom of choice. This is only possible with the courage to take over the helm. Responsibility.
Do you want to be the person who lives his life calmly without being made a victim? Do you want to be the player or the ball?
It is your life, you only have the one. Shape it yourself and enjoy it.
The art of not giving a fuck is not an art either, anyone can do that.
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